Eye contact is an interesting phenomenon. As one of our senses, it brings in the world to our heart, mind, and soul. But it also reveals ourselves to others in a way unlike any other.
Sometimes, I like to remove Kasai’s ability to see – allow her to not have any concern about any visuals during our play. She often says afterwards that even though she couldn’t see I was reaching for a particular toy, she somehow ‘knew’ that’s what I was going for. Removing eye sight provides a heightened sense of awareness and closer entanglement.
Sometimes, I wont let her make eye contact. This is mostly true when she is in a submissive position. Being able to see, without really seeing, offers more anticipation. And that’s a good thing, especially on the onset of a scene. Not making eye contact is also a reminder of her submission.
Other times, I instruct her to not close her eyes during our scenes, or moments within a scene. Maintaining eye contact brings a vulnerable state – especially in D/s. It bears your heart and soul to another. Of course, I enjoy occasional eye contact when she is pleasing me – but there is something amazingly beautiful to have Kasai’s eyes open when I am pleasing her – to see her become lost deep in subspace. To watch a rosy beauty come over her as she loses control.