If you search for BDSM, as I’m sure you have, you find an interesting result. Of course Wikipedia pops up, as well as a couple news articles about whats wrong with 50 Shades, but nothing of real substance. If you click on the images, you begin to find something to visualize.
And while these are amazing photos, they only deal with scene based materials. It’s the same if look at the video results as well. There are a number of books to choose from, but those can be more of a gamble than staying online, because now you have to pay to see.
The same thing happens when you search for other phrases.
Don’t get me wrong – that shit (and a lot more) turns me on.
It’s just that everything that has substance seems to be scene-only related. The rest just want to tell you that there is an endless variety of what this all means, and you shouldn’t judge ones person D/s to another.
While that may be true, it just seems that nearly every website, every photo, and every book is trying to sell something. And in truth, most of them probably are.
They are selling an idea.
They work on the visualization of dominance and of sadism. It’s like being at a restaurant and seeing a photo of a meal, only to order it and have not be as appealing, tasty, or filling as you thought it would be now that your eating it.
That’s why I’m glad for this community. A group of people who share their day to day lives. Nobody is pitching anything. They communicate and support one another. And in that, is beauty.
So, I may not click that I like, or comment on your posts, but know that I read them, and I do enjoy them. I’ve probably dug into your blogs and read some of your past too. And I thank you all for sharing how you live this life.
Because that’s the shit no one was talking about. It’s more than fucking hard. It’s more than a photo or a video. This is our life. Yeah, it’s messy sometimes. But in and through it all – it’s beautiful.