Actions may be louder than words – but words do matter. Words can be creative in nature and cultivate a sense of belonging, redemption, growth, and meaning – or rejection, isolation, death and loss. On a different plane, they can encompass your Dominance (or submission) or they can undermine it. For example, the difference between saying to Kasai “Do <insert activity>” or “I think I would like you to do <insert activity> – what do you think?” Or from the submissive perspective – if a sub says to their Dom “May I <insert activity>” versus “I’m going to <insert activity>”.
As a Dominant, my words should reflect my dominance. As a submissive your words should reflect your submission.
Both should use words that cultivate the relationship – as well as reflect their Dominance/submission.