The past two posts were about demonstrating Dominance and submission and over the past week, I’ve shared a few search words that people have used to find their way to emergingDom. Searches about some consensual kinkery that made for fun reading posts.
Sadly, not every search word(s) have been that way. There have been a few about “extreme punishment” phrases. I think there are probably more cases than we are aware of that under the guise of some sort of domestic discipline, D/s, or M/s the reality is domestic violence.
And I wanted to take a minute on this Monday morning to say that BDSM must be consensual. If it’s not – then it’s abuse.
Any relationship that is forged in any type of physical, emotional, or spiritual abuse is wrong. Sometimes, a “dominant” might try to use their power in selfish ways and mistreat their partner – but that’s NOT what a Dominant does. Sometimes, the abuse may start out as a slight of hand – and grow over time.
There are tons of resources out there, if you or someone you know is being abused. Abuse isn’t something you put up with. I know that it can be difficult to get out of an abusive relationship – sometimes you may feel stuck or like there is no way out. But there is help – there are people whose heart beats to assist those trying to get out.
Below are a few resources:
Domestic Violence Hotline 1800-799-7233
From the UK – 0808 2000 247
From Austrailia – 1800 737 732