:: Bondage Basics

111617793Bondage has several effects that both draw some towards it, as well as away from it.

There is a significant amount of trust required when using any form of bondage – from cuffs, to full body restraints. And that in turn means that the Dominant needs to be safe in everything they do. Having a pair of scissors handy – establishing alternate forms of communication – constant supervision – staying within the limits of their expertise – and it continues.

Bondage is also slow – it requires patience by both the Dominant and the submissive. Cuffs are quick and easy enough; however, anything involving rope requires some preparation before hands (practicing) and time during before being able to move on to anything different.

These two areas both pull people in and keep them out. Some relationships don’t have the foundation of trust required – other people may not be patient enough to spend 10-30 minutes placing their partner in bondage. But others – particularly those within a D/s dynamic are drawn to bondage for these very reasons.

It accents the Dominance and submission. It heightens trust. It requires skill and patience.

Bondage can be used for binding or erotic aesthetics. You can use rope, cuffs, ties, saran wrap, bondage tape, velcro, spreader bars, furniture, straps, chain, or other restraints. You can bind only hands to more elaborate uses that encompass the entire body.

Bondage is used as a medium for the power exchange – sometimes it is used to make the submissive more accessible to the Dominant, other times bondage is used for its own sake.

Throughout the next few posts, I’ll discuss some different forms of bondage and provide some links to additional resources.

2 thoughts on “:: Bondage Basics

  1. Spot on yet again. I love Shibari but it does require patience and time. Patience on behalf of both, the love of the rope -sensation play- against her skin. Time for things to be “pulled” together then deconstructed. Yes! 🙂

    -Tom Wolf

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