:: BDSM Transition | Kinky Sex

I don’t mean to suggest that kinky sex = a D/s relationship in this post; only that this is one element typically found within BDSM that is probably the most common among those entering in. On the outset, a lot of people might equate the two, after all that’s what movies and erotica tell us – of course, people who are in a D/s dynamic realize there is more, but I digress.

Now, I am actually going to divide this aspect into two parts (and posts) – kinky sex, and kinkier sex.

By kinky sex I am insinuating some light bondage and an intro to impact, anal or role play. In other words, stepping out of the typical “vanilla sex” – but not venturing too far.

I wouldn’t be surprised if the number of couples who experience this form of kinky sex is higher than what most think; however, most don’t jump right in. On the first couple dates, a guy is going to be hesitant to ask the girl if she likes to be fucked in the ass or spanked with a paddle. In reality, most people don’t talk about sex at all until after they have had sex.

Sexual encounters of couples who just met are often described as hot, steamy, and passionate. There is a newness to the lust factor that compels the couple to have a lot of great sex. But the experience is typically pretty vanilla – sure they fuck in a few different positions and locations, but they aren’t likely to go too far.

But at some point in time, the two will begin to explore more and more of their sexual appetite. Be it from reading articles in magazines, or through some slight conversation. The girl may put her ass in the air hoping that he will spank it. The guy might begin some minor anal play hoping to advance further.

Eventually, these activities will lead to some form of dialogue. But it’s not the easiest conversation to initiate – because neither one wants to feel rejected. The trust is still building, even after years of being together. But this conversation is typically the introduction of BDSM into their relationship.

And normally, it’s the sexual element that begins it. And it’s kind of easy to understand why. Kinky sex is amazing. The bond and level of trust between the two seems to mystically compound as they delve into it.

The conversation might begin by going to sex toy website and just browsing around – each one noticing how the other reacts to different toys and maybe asking “What do you think about this one?” Truth be told, this is probably one of the easiest and less stressful ways of initiating the conversation – because it’s very non-instrusive. It’s non-demanding. And it allows for a fun conversation.

After a little experimentation, the two begins to become more and more comfortable with this level of dynamic.

The conversation grows, and becomes a little more open. They find it easier to come out and say what’s on their mind, what they want, and how they want to experience it. One of the partners typically will begin to become more dominant.

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