:: BDSM Transition | Sexual D/s

When a couple transitions to kinkier sex, they normally emerge into some form of a D/s dynamic. While there are several variations, they might be grouped into a Bedroom Only, a Sexuality D/s, or a Total Power Exchange (which also has several variants).

The Bedroom Only dynamic is fairly self-explanatory – the power exchange only exists when a couple is engaged in the act of sex itself.

In a power exchange that involves the couples sexuality – it extends beyond the act and is inclusive of every aspect of the sexual nature between the two.

What is sexuality? It can be defined as the capacity for sexual feelings, or the capacity to have erotic experiences and responses. If you type “sexuality” into Google and search for images, you will see a healthy mixture of photos including embraces, holding hands, sex, sexy clothing, kissing, massages….a little bit of everything.

Human sexuality is a very dynamic and inclusive thing. It reaches into nearly every aspect of our lives. Most surveys tell us that both men and women think about sex a lot during the day – we experience things that arouse us in some way – from a simple glance, a spoken word, a caress, a kiss, responding to the way we dress, images, movies, or song. In addition to these areas, there are others that contribute – our health, fitness, and economics all support our sexuality.

In a D/s dynamic where one partner has Dominance over the couples Sexuality – all of these things are considered. The Dominant partner leads the two to experience a heightened capacity for these responses in addition to the actual experience of sex itself.

As a couple transitions to this relationship, the conversation is in depth discussing all of these areas – how will the Dominant have authority in them. What are the considerations for where and when? Will there be different levels of how it is demonstrated?

This dynamic then, is 24/7 – even though there may be different protocols for how the couple interacts with each other depending on if they are alone or around family, friends, others. When alone, it may be extremely overt, yet around others the dynamic may be subtle. This couple also allows the two to have several areas in their life where the dynamic doesn’t engage (major financial decisions, raising children, etc).

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