:: BDSM SPANKINGS

1fbb334326256b712d9f46ebcfb46e07There were a few times before Kasai and I began our emergence into a D/s dynamic that I smacked her ass, but I never really gave her a spanking. I remember the first time like it was yesterday.

I can recall the moments leading up to, during, and afterwards with great clarity. But I’m not sure I was prepared for how each of us would respond.

As her pussy began to saturate with each strike, I found my own desire intensifying. There was a release within both of us to something primal. And we each began to crave it deeply.

What is it about spankings that can stir up something so deep within us? How do you go about administering a spanking that deepens a bond and level of trust?

There is a plurality of understanding when it comes to spankings. On one hand, we are raised to not hit a woman, and some have a difficult time grasping the power of a spanking, because they can’t get over this one side. Part of it remains, because any abusive element is wrong.

But there is another side – the side where both parties want and enjoy it. Some may even say that they need the experience of it. On this side, there is no abuse, because it’s given and received freely – it’s yearned for and desired.

This is the realm of spankings.

There is a physiological element that is not always easy to describe. Because many view it as taboo, and because of the perception of abuse, it can be difficult to say why you enjoy spanking your sub, or why you want to be spanked by your Dom.

Through the power of spankings; however, resides a mechanism to deepen bonds – to soften wills – to strengthen relationships. It heightens sexual awareness and arousal. They release tension and sharpen the edges of the D/s dynamic.

TYPES OF SPANKINGS

7d586c26a14a7fd7da50b04a54ec98a3I would suggest that there are several types of spankings. There is a maintenance spanking – maybe it’s every day, or once a week – but these are planned and scheduled – they occur whether intercourse follows or not. They can serve as a reminder of the D/s dynamic. They can be a ritual, or part of a protocol.

There are playful spankings – these are probably less intense than a maintenance spanking, and most often will be accompanied by intercourse (before, during, or after); however, they can often be very intense.

There are also therapeutic spankings. There have been times when Kasai was struggling with things, and I just “knew” that what she needed was a good spanking. So, I had her lay over my lap and used my hand to spank her ass. With each strike, her tension subsided. It wasn’t really “sexual” in the way most other spankings are, but it was still powerful.

Then there are spankings for discipline and/or punishment. These are normally more intense than the others, and are a result of some kind of nonconformity. Generally, a spanking is seen, understood, and experienced as a positive thing – something that quickens our sexual urges; however, a spanking given for discipline is administered as a form of correction and most likely are not directly followed by intercourse.

INSTRUMENTS, SEVERITY, & LOCATION

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You have to know your instruments. Whether you use your hand, a crop, paddle, cane, flogger or other tool. You need to know how hard each one strikes. You need to know how they are felt over a bare ass or if she has panties on – or a dress, or pants. You need to know how long it will take to heal from a spanking.

The hand is the most personal instrument. You “feel” each strike just as she does. Because of the shared physiological response it’s easier to understand how it is being felt. And you can change the way the spanking is felt more than just with the velocity of your hand. You can strike with just your finger tips, with a cupped palm or flat hand. You can use the back of your hand. You can spank and hold, or vary the degree of follow through.

Other instruments offer differences as well. The longer the instrument, the more bite it generally carry. The harder (wood vs leather) it is, the more severe it will be. If the instrument is flexible and soft as with many floggers you can swing pretty hard and it will won’t be as intense as something like a cane that is hard, very thing, and often long.

Clothing adds a degree of padding to the ass. While a bare ass will leave red imprints almost immediately from a spanking, if she has on any clothing, the physical reaction will be less intense. While most spankings are given on a bare ass, it can be just as sexy as a quickie to give a quick spanking over her clothes as well.

Most bottoms can probably take a harder spanking than what most Tops typically give. Dom’s may have a tendency to back off at the site of her ass becoming rosy or slight bruising. But you need to be a master of your craft – you need to know what the reaction is to every level and degree of spankings.

There is something about watching bruises heal as well.

When it comes to where you spank your sub, the ass is probably the #1 spot. The buttocks are soft and able to take a beating like no other place on the human body. While you can spank her pussy, it’s not going to be nearly as hard as it would be on her ass. Same would go with her breasts. The upper and meaty portion of her thighs is probably the #2 spot. In general, you want to avoid spanking around internal organs and be highly conscience of places where bones are close to the surface.

Something happens in a submissives mind, body, and spirit during a spanking. There is the physical reaction (reddening, bruising, etc) and the emotional response which has a wide range. Because of the many ways in which a submissive accepts a spanking, the Dominant partner should administer some degree of after-care. It could be applying lotion, cuddling, warming up under a blanket, etc. But some attention is required.

13 thoughts on “:: BDSM SPANKINGS

  1. I love spankings ..especially when i really deserve it .. lol lol i like being bad sometimes .. that way it’s kinda a for real bad girl spanking .. Love your blog Billy 🙂

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  2. I have decided that I am tired of asking why all the time. In this instance, why does being spanked feel so good? Because it just does! The why depends on the type and severity. We aren’t suppose to hit and my husband definitely isn’t “suppose” to ever strike me. But, if I LOVE it when he bends me over his knee and turns my ass hot pink, why not? Rape is wrong on EVERY level, but if I LOVE it when my Sir shoves my face into the wall and forcibly fucks me hard, why not? The difference is trust and consent. With those, you don’t have to ask why. Thank you for a very clear and informative description about something that not everyone understands, but for those of us that do, we LOVE. 🙂

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