:: BDSM & TANTRIC SEXUALITY

UnknownI realize that most of my postings have been about some form of BDSM or another – from training, to spankings, to discipline, and the joys of sex. Sometimes; however, we often associate a D/s dynamic with fast and hard things – even as we realize the sexual and spiritual union that is deepened through it. But we don’t often talk about it.

Over the next few posts, I want to explore this.

Most couples who have been together a while often complain about their sexuality. It’s become routine. It’s not new, or fresh. It has dissipated to mean intercourse only – and that only happens every now and then. They don’t feel alive. The sex is predictable and boring.

While these are many of the reasons why people begin to explore outside of their relationship, they are also many of the reasons why they turn to each other and try to rediscover their love for each other.

What we need is more intimacy. We need to embrace who we are. To feel satisfied, alive, and fulfilled.

How do we do that?

Some have found it within a D/s dynamic, and as I’ve written about in the past about the History of BDSM, many of the elements within BDSM are not new – people around the world have for centuries discovered beauty and sacredness in their sexuality.

One of these paths was birthed in India nearly 5,000 years ago. It’s the idea that sexuality, spirituality, and emotions are all interconnected. That the human body should be celebrated. Sexual intimacy should be fully enjoyed.

One of the ways to do this, is to rediscover who we are – as individuals, and as a couple. When a couple first meets, they enjoy learning about each other. They enjoy their differences. Each felt that love was a gift and that their partner should be treated with reverence and honor.

In a D/s dynamic, these things are brought back to the forefront. But rather than simply bending your sub over your knee – find a moment to slow down and simply enjoy your partner. Relearn how to communicate – and do so freely. Don’t censor yourself or your emotions and feelings.

When a couple first begins to emerge into D/s, many find it liberating – they had kept their desires bottled up…they didn’t know how their partner would take it…would they be rejected? Rather, they find that their partner embraces them – they find freedom.

Don’t let that sense leave. Continue to move forward in your journey together. Don’t suppress your feelings. Don’t reject your desires. They are beautiful and natural. Embrace them – talk about them – experience them.

24 thoughts on “:: BDSM & TANTRIC SEXUALITY

  1. I have no words to describe how wonderful this post is. We have found ourselves gravitating to a more tantric form of lovemaking as we travel this path we’ve discovered. You are so correct in that that BDSM play and all the honesty required to embark on this has opened up a flow of energy between us that is at times truly overwhelming.

    To find myself at an age where I can be brought to an orgasmic state simply by being held closely is something I would have never believed possible.

    So glad you are working on this topic.

    Annie ❤

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  2. I must think about your post. You brought up many important points. However, some couples, no matter how long they’ve been together, are not able to communicate freely. Their minds simply do not, and never will, speak the same language. That’s where my marriage is. But there’s also emotional baggage people carry from their past and that can interfere in the relationship as well. Excellent post! You write quite well. I’m going to re-read this again. Best regards to you.

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    1. Sadly, you’re very right Rosewyn. We grow up with baggage that is often hard to rid ourselves from. I hope that your and your husband find a new language of love that transcends all barriers. Best to you both as well!!

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      1. Thank you for your kind thoughts. I’ll always love my husband, he’s a member of my family. But my heart belongs to Christopher, nothing will change that. You’re an intelligent man and I appreciate your comments. Best to you and yours also.

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  3. I agree with Annie! This is level of intimacy is the cornerstone of a deep and successful relationship, and in my opinion it truly enhances the D/s dynamic.
    Great post! Can’t wait to read more on this.
    -lj

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  4. We’ve been embracing the spiritual side of our sexuality for quite a while and we keep seeking ways to find deeper connections. People can even fall into routine when it comes to BDSM. When Coach and I are fully connected the simplest touch can be explosive. It’s all about what’s in your mind and heart.

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    1. I couldn’t agree more about finding yourselves in a routine, no matter what the dynamic is. Sometimes we need storms, other times we need stillness to open us to the things that are important. May we always be emerging! Best to you and Coach!

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      1. Some people try and avoid storms, but you shouldn’t because they serve to cleanse. It’s how you weather the storm that makes the difference and then the stillness is even sweeter when you come through.

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  5. What a wonderful post, bravo! My baby girl and I have embraced erotic hypnosis and tantric practices to not only fully explore each other in new and exciting ways, also to get rid of baggage from past relationships to unburden this part of our shared journey.

    I appreciate your sharing and I look forward to future posts!

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  6. This is an inspiring post. I like the way you not only pay homage to the D/s lifestyle, but you also stress that even within the D/s dynamic, couples must – “Relearn how to communicate – and do so freely. Don’t censor yourself or your emotions and feelings.” Thank you, keep up the good work.

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    1. I would say that our sexuality is very intentional. While not “Tantric” in a classical sense, there are shades of neo-tantra. How has our intentional sexuality changed us? …I guess to summarize, we seem to be very aware of the other, more so than ever before – this draws us closer to each other.

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  7. Yes, Yes and Yes, We are going to have to do some research on Tantric. Sounds as though two become one. And who wouldn’t want that with the one person who knows you inside and out, who would go to the ends of the earth to be with you. I don’t see how we could get any closer but I’m willing to take that journey..

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