Having a place dedicated to yourselves is important. It may not be a room, or a dungeon – but if you create a space that is conducive it will enable your union to continue to deepen.
Many people use their bedroom – and that’s perfectly okay. But look around. Is it cluttered with dirty laundry? Are there stacks of daily life around? Reclaim the space as your own.
You can use furniture, wall hangings, colors, fabrics, ritual objects, candles, lighting, fragrance. It’s worth investing in a little here and there.
You may not be able to afford some of the furniture you want yet – but you can do a lot with a dining room chair or a weight bench. An ottoman is a simple, functional, and comfortable piece as well. Padding a saw horse makes an excellent spanking bench. You can be creative with almost anything.
Look for colors that will accent your desire for the space, and try to work with those colors as you move forward. From curtains, to pictures, rugs, comforters, pillows – just put a little thought into it with each purchase – you don’t have to get everything at once.
Keep your dressers, night stands, or counters as clutter free as you can – and use them as well to help with the space – you can place an arrangement of candles, or other items. If you have lamps, consider the color of light that they project – you may not want a harsh whtie light, simply changing the bulb to a different hue can make a world of difference.
Music can add another element as well. What kind of music you play is up to you, but for me (most of the time), I prefer music without lyrics. Not sure which direction I wanted to go, I began to download soundtracks to movies, because they offered a high quality instrumentation and musical quality that I wanted.
Just a little thought and effort can go a long way. We all purchase items for the house and our bedroom throughout the year – think about the duality of the items, the colors, the shades, that can enhance your vision for the space as you look for things that accent the area.
I’ve used a lot of items from around the house – whether I moved them into the bedroom for an evening, or used them where they were – but almost any item can be utilized – you don’t have to intuitionally purchase something that can only be used for sex. Many items can be repurposed.
The great thing about using what you already have, is it helps keep your space clutter free – after your done with the chair, go put it back. There is also a connection throughout the house as your mind is drawn back to those moments when they were used.