:: BDSM Meme | Just for the Sex

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Many people in the BDSM community have not articulated ourselves very well. We like to proclaim that there is no “right way” to do BDSM. We say, as long as it’s safe, sane, and consensual, then go for it.

And then some books are written, and a movie is made that throws the whole community up in a storm of commotion, everyone saying “That’s not REAL BDSM”. Wait…I thought we said there was no “right way”.

Truth is, there is a loud voice in the BDSM community across the spectrums that do think there is a right way. I could find countless pages and blogs that would say things like: “Doms and subs aren’t the real thing, Masters and slaves are”, “Subs/slaves shouldn’t be allowed to have safe words”, “If it’s not 24/7 TPE, it’s not real”, and it goes on and on.

So here’s my take on all of this, you can take it for what it’s worth.

Are you genuinely happy?

If the answer is yes – then I don’t particularly care. I don’t care if you read an erotic novel, 50 shades, watched 9 1/2 weeks or read a blog and drifted into non-vanilla life. We all make our way in somehow. I don’t care if you just have wild kinky ass sex in your bedroom. That may not be my thing, but that’s cool. I don’t care if you have protocols that extend beyond when your having sex. Ours may not impact every area yours does, but that’s okay. So long as there is no physical, mental, emotional, or spiritual abuse – I don’t care.

Have fun, and have amazingly wild ass kinky sex.

24 thoughts on “:: BDSM Meme | Just for the Sex”

  9. You are WRONG! If you don’t fit into the exact box that I want everything to fit into, then it is definitely wrong. Oh wait, that is how narrow minded, simple thinking, opinionated and unaccepting people think. You are RIGHT! It doesn’t matter if you are pure vanilla or pure” amazingly wild ass kinky sex. “BE HAPPY! 🙂

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  10. Happy, no abuses, and may I add one other? How about respect for each other? I realize this can look so many different ways and may fly into the face of some “acts of degradation” that are part of some dynamics. One sad little truth for many who feel drawn to this lifestyle is it scratches an itch that began in childhood, where the ones who supposedly loved you abused you and/or degraded you., to the point that it “feels normal.” This is why to me, a true Dom seeks to always have an undercurrent of respect running through a D/s or M/s relationship (and not fear), because he knows his sub. This isn’t about making women into doormats or abusing masochiatic tendencies. Watched my dad verbally and emotionally abuse all weaker family members; got to the point Mom denigrated herself saying how “stupid” or “inept” she was at something, and Dad would agree and debase her more, never showed her respect or built her up. Brother became a self-fulfilling prophecy and always dependent on dad. That is sick. I broke away from that S /M, but found it elsewhere in one form or another, until I found the one who respected me.

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