:: WOMEN’s SELF PLEASURE

UnknownSo, the following can be used a couple different ways – one is for solo use (obviously, that’s the title) – but most of it can be employed by a partner as well. I know it may be a little unconventional for a guy to talk about women masturbating, but hang in there…

In the end, we (men and women) are looking for the big O when we masturbate, and the bigger the better, and as it turns out, many of the same things that your partner will (and should) do with you for you to experience body rocking orgasms you can employ yourself. Now, if your partner isn’t doing that – have them read along.

:: Use lubrication. This is, and isn’t the number one tip. Lube isn’t always needed – but it always helps things go…smoother. Whether your playing with your clit, or using something to penetrate with, a little lube goes a long way. There are all sorts of them out there, and it just takes a little experimentation to find out which kind is the best for you.

:: Set the Scene. I’ve shared in other posts about the importance of having a place designated as sacred for sex – now, ANY place is good – and can be GREAT, but having a place that is unique helps to separate vanilla life from getting your self-mojo on. For most, this is the bedroom – so clean it up, get rid of the laundry, light some candles, play some music, etc. Back to the other places – explore in those as well – it can be rather hot to masturbate in other places, so let your kinky adventurous side have some fun too.

:: Explore Your Body. It’s always different when your lover touches you compared to when you touch yourself – this is true for all of us, but it can heighten your senses if you linger on other parts of your body – breasts, neck, legs, stomach, arms, etc.

Of course there are the primal erogenous zones – your clit and G spot – they love it when you stroke them just right. Hitting your G spot can be harder to do, but there’s a tip coming up that will help with that! But to use your hand try this:

tumblr_m3x2g0KACM1roo8pfSit back against your headboard or wall and insert your index and middle finger from your dominate hand inside and make a ‘come here’ motion with your fingers – you should feel a walnut sized sponge area – this is your G spot – keep caressing it. Now, the more aroused you are, the easier this is, so it may be better for a subsequent orgasm rather than the first. Keep making the ‘come here’ motion until you feel yourself ready to explode (may feel like you have to pee – but it’s not, don’t hold back) and let it go.

tumblr_mezhuv1c951qiiunto1_500:: Use your Imagination. Watch porn – yes, I know the cliche that most women don’t like it, but it’s a bullshit cliche to think that because women somehow fantasize about sex less than men. The beauty of today’s porn sites, is you can search for porn that excites you. There are compilation videos of every type of sex imaginable.

Fantasize about somebody in particular – could be someone famous, could be your lover – but focus on the feeling and the sensation. Even when watching porn – don’t see the people in the video – see yourself and the one your fantasizing about.

Though it may feel strange to sensor your own senses – experiment with using a blindfold and/or the use

:: Focus on not-focusing. Sometimes, you can masturbate and it seems like “what the fuck is going on, O already!”. It’s fun to touch yourself and feel the beautiful sensations, but come on, we’re masturbating because we want to orgasm. So, let yourself go – feel the sensations. Meditate on the moment of climax – think about the times in the past where you have had amazing orgasms, where when you came it seemed like you were in outer space – let those memories be your focus – feel them.

Now, mind blowing orgasms aren’t going to always come through some self-help. They don’t when your with your partner either. And that’s okay, they don’t have to. Yes, it sucks – but the release is still good. So, don’t worry about it not being amazing – simply enjoy it!

Now, another tip to build up to a powerful orgasm is to back off. It takes a lot of self-control, but when you are nearing a 7 or 8 on the scale of “oh my fucking god, I’m going to come!!!”, back off so that you don’t. When you’ve simmered back down, commence again – and build back up. The more you do this, the bigger the rupture.

:: Why Just One? I mean, what the fuck? Do you only like to have one serving of orgasms when your with your partner? Hell no. So, don’t limit yourself either. Climax from some clitoral hand jamming, and then go for another…and another 🙂

But seriously, the second one is generally going to be more powerful than the first – so go after it. After all, you want an amazing orgasm. They don’t even have to be at the same time – one in the morning, another mid-day snack, and one in the evening. Nor does every time you touch yourself have to lead to an orgasm – touching yourself without brining an O will only heighten your senses and desire for when you finish the job later.

A lot of people feel some sense of shame by masturbating, or pleasing themselves. It’s taboo in most societies – but you need to learn to let that go and be creative and uncensored when it comes to pleasing yourself.

tumblr_musoyu61SO1sjo6cco1_500:: Get Some Help. The use of toys can be simply amazing for your experience. There are a lot of standard toys – the rabbit,
the vibrator, the dildo. But don’t limit yourself – use water (detachable shower head or even the tub faucet) – use a suction cup dildo so you can mimic fucking a cock (or being fucked by it) – use multiple (slide in an anal toy, etc) – go electric!

images-1The Hitachi Wand is hands down the bar setter when it comes to “Holy Fuck” orgasms. There are all kinds of makes and models (not all of which are Hitachi, btw) – but with this unique toy, you can do some amazing things. Most people play with it on the clit, but explore – you may find that holding it over the vaginal opening will do wonders! You can also get some insertable attachments to chase after the inside of your pussy.

If you’ve got money, you can purchase a fucking machine to rock your world as well. If you don’t have the skills to make one, one of these may set you back up to $300 (though you can find them a little cheaper). One of the beauties of having a fucking machine, is it gives you new sensations and you can feel more submissive while you use one. Of course, there’s no hiding your sexual appetite when someone sees it, lol.

:: BDSM on a budget

UnknownSo, you want a handheld fucking machine, but can’t afford it right now? No worries, there are plenty of options, you just need to be creative. One of the coolest features about the machine is that it can be used before, during, or after – and it takes no real effort. Well, with this next toy, you can do the same thing, just a whole lot less expensive. With just a little elbow grease, you can drive your sub crazy.Unknown-1

Call it a dick on a stick, call it whatever you like, but with nothing but a Vac-U-Lock dildo and a dowel rod, you get the same benefits (other than 3,000 strokes per minute…unless your a true bad ass) as a reciprocating saw. For less than $15 you can bring the same sensations, plus you can be as far away as 4 feet from her.

So relax, sit back and stroke away!

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:: Handheld Fucking Machine

images-2Had a few questions on the Reciprocating Saw, so I thought I’d follow up with it in a little more detail on all the specifics about it.

WHAT IS THIS THING? First off, it’s a handheld fucking machine. Variable speed at that – the Rigid one in that I have from the previous post is 3,500 strokes per minute. The length of the stroke is 1/2”. It weighs only 5 lbs and is 16” long. It’s very light weight and easy to handle. The variance of the speed depends on how you pull the trigger. It can be picked up for between $50-$80 new (and I don’t recommend used – too many particles would be flying around, LOL)

sawSAW OPTIONS: There are a lot of saws that can be used. From Makita to DeWalt and of course Milwakee. They all have pros and cons. Some are heavier duty (which isn’t needed) – some are cordless (which is a cool option), some are light weight. Trigger placement also varies as well. For the purpose of a fucking machine, I don’t recommend anything too heavy duty, as it’s just not needed.

There are also differences in the strokes per minute and stroke length. Most will be variable, so you can make it VERY intense, or lessen it depending on how hard you pull the trigger. The max stoke length you’ll find is 1 1/8” – and that sounds amazing, because it’s twice as long as the Rigid one I have, but when it’s hand held, you can slide it in and out, twist it, etc etc, so I didn’t feel the longer stroke length was necessary.

When it comes to being plug in or cordless, either way is fine; however, remember that most saws you will see that are sold as cordless do NOT include batteries or a charger, so that will be an additional charge if you don’t already have them.

images-1HOW DOES IT WORK? First thing, you need an adapter like THIS ONE. All of the saws will feature a blade change ability – most are keyless, which you want. You simply pull the blade change lever, insert the adapter, and then release the lever to lock it in place. Most will only accept blades/adapters in one way, so you can’t mess it up. After you have it in, pull the trigger and make sure the adapter stays in place. Some of the adapters are very expensive ($50 plus), but you don’t need anything that expensive.

1361988983After that, you can use any VAC-U-LOCK dildo and slide it right over the adapter. Add a little lubricant and get busy. You can use lightly to stroke over the clitorus, or penetrate the vagina and let the new beast do it’s magic. It won’t take long, I can promise that. I certainly wouldn’t advise using it anally unless you are well to that point; however, I believe any woman would be able to take it vaginally. It may take some getting used to, because it’s going to be powerful – this isn’t going to be a toy you can use for hours on end, LOL.

I hope I explained this with enough detail to make it make sense – this is the EASIEST fucking machine that you can put together – it takes no mechanical abilities, it’s very cost effective, and the parts themselves are pretty ordinary, so if someone sees a saw, well…it’s a saw (of course if they see it with the adapter and the dildo, that’s a different story, LMFAO).

So, the next time your at Home Depot or Lowes, or another local lumber store, stop by and check them out. Get you hands on them, feel the difference in the weight and the ergonomics.

:: SEX & SEX TOY POLL

Had a great start on the responses so far with 49 so far on the Relationship Type – next up is a question on Sex & Sex Toys. Want to get ahead of the posts, click HERE to see all them (so far)