:: Nothing’s Changed

Sometimes, things don’t really change do they?

:: Kinky Sex Tip #9 | Water Sports

There is something about water sports that seems to fascinate guys, it starts at an early age.

Manny Alvarez was like some kind of demigod in the 4th grade. He could hit the urinal from 15 feet away with perfection. We were all in awe at his prowess. I can recall numerous camping trips, we would all see who could be the farthest and the longest. It was boyish competition. And of course, there is the relief one feels when they urinate.

When it comes to water sports, there is a hint of sensuality and wonder. You use the same muscles while urinating as you do when ejaculating. When you see a woman urinating, there is a connection with her ejaculation and orgasms as well.

For some, water sports are taboo. For others, it is an enjoyable kink. In my opinion, it’s worth experimenting. As you do, remember the following:

– urine itself is sterile

– nobody wants a “golden” shower – if your urine is yellow, you need to drink more fluids

– though you don’t want to give a golden shower, the golden rule is still in place. while some seem to use it as a means of humiliation, it’s better served with joy, wonder, and as an expression of your sexuality

– most importantly, as with any kink: have fun!

:: Kinky Sex Tip #6 | Evolutions

It’s important to know where you want to go, otherwise, you’ll get lost. You may get lost anyways, but if you have some kind of an idea – some kind of vision, then you can begin to plan a route to get there.

Most people (I’m assuming) want to be passionate lovers. They want to demonstrate their devotion, their adoration, their desire to please their partner. In a D/s dynamic, they want to demonstrate their Dominance and their submission.

You have to know where you’re at. What you want. How you want it. Where you want to go. That takes honest communication. It also takes a lot of trust.

You’ll never truly be “Fuck Yes” lovers if you don’t talk. If you don’t share your passions and desires.

You’ll never get there without going through the “Okay, I’m Ready” – it’s a process. And while you’ll constantly be emerging, you have to make some movement. That requires some guidance and willingness.

And many things begin with a few “Oh My God” moments. You’re embarking on something new – most people don’t experience kink of any sort the first time without this phase.

Whether it’s a facial, anal, water sports, wax, clamps, or any other kink – to include non-intercourse areas as well, it’s a process. Life isn’t like porn – you don’t just slam your (seemingly non lubricated) cock into her ass and expect her to have a squirting orgasm from it on the first try.

But you know that you want her to eventually orgasm through anal sex (or whatever your goals are)- so develop a way to get there. Because once you get to the “Fuck Yes!” phase it really is fucking incredible.

:: Kinky Sex Tip #5 | Oral Sex Tips

Call it Cunnilingus, call it muff diving, eating pussy, lip service, or just plain old oral sex. Call it whatever you want – but women agree – they love oral sex! For those who may have been raised to think that it’s wrong, they may have some inhibitions prior to having you please them, but once you start – their hips WILL begin to shimmy and shake.

There’s no need to rush. Take your time. Lick, nibble, and tease her body. Her neck – her breasts, her stomach, inner thighs….you get the picture. Let her know your there because you want to be. Ladies – let your man know when they hit a spot that you like, a simple “Oh, that feels so good” does the trick fine – we want to please you, and will go out of our way to do so. So don’t feel like you have to lie or fake something. If you need it a little to the left, say so 🙂

Once you make it to her pussy, tease around her clit. Women – just like men – need to hear you love what your doing, so tell her. Tell her love pleasing her, tell her love eating her pussy, tell her you love how she tastes. Once her hips begin to move, you know your onto something good. Stay there for a while, and feast on her. Let her ecstasy rise.

Tease her again by talking to her. Look up at her breasts and see how her heart is pounding – how deeply she is breathing. Pay attention to these details.

Back to business. Sensually lick in and around her vaginal opening. Trace her outer edges, back and forth. Again. Again. Flick her clit with your tongue. Roam around, but your primary focus is her clit – smoothly but steadily continue to elevate her.

Guys, you don’t like having her teeth scrap your cock, so if you use teeth, do so gingerly. Suck on her clit softly, continue to work circles around it. Look up again – how is her breathing – how hard are her nipples, is she clenching the sheets, is her heart rate increasing?

Get back to it, talk to her more and then find her spot. That spot. That spot where she’s moaning, and shaking. Stay there. Once she starts, don’t let up. Keep her going towards the edge by slipping a couple fingers into her pussy as you continue to work tongue magic on her clit. Find her G spot and work in a rhythm.

Once she comes – don’t stop. You can bring her down slowly, or go for it again. Now, every woman is a little different when it comes to the O. One may come quickly from nothing but your mouth – others may need some penetrative work, other’s you may need to use a toy. But the thing is this – make she has an O while you are eating her pussy.

Kiss her deeply – passionately.

You love it when she makes you come – show some love and enjoy making her come! All this attention is priming her sexual desire. At this point, even if you made her orgasm multiple times, all she wants is one thing.

You.