:: kink vs. D/s

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So, we found ourselves wrapped in some amazing sex.

And as I looked back, I began to realize that something had begun to fade – my Dominance.

Don’t get me wrong, in a scene it might be hard to tell that it was missing. I told her how to prepare, what to do, what to say. I manhandled her, spanked her – thorough use of toys and instruments, bondage.

All that good stuff. So, if judged by the scene itself, you might say “yup, there into D/s”. If some people knew our scenes, they’d probably say we were going to hell…

But does the sex part make it D/s or was it just kinky sex?

When we began our journey – I felt like I was dominating more than just our sex life – I was dominating our sexuality. Throughout the day. She submitted to my instruction, performing different tasks, etc. It heightened our sense of awareness and connection to each other and led to a more primal connection when we did have sex.

Yet even then, I failed to understand the true value of training (and other areas of concern).

There’s nothing wrong with kinky sex (I for one happen to enjoy it!), if that’s all you want. But to be in a healthy D/s relationship – more is required. There has to be a connection of dominance and submission outside of the bedroom (or wherever you have sex).

It doesn’t mean that every aspect of life is micromanaged by the Dom. There are a variety of colors in the world of BDSM, and none are rightfully compared to another; however, there is some need in the vanilla world for each other to recognize their lovers position as either sub or Dom.

For Kasai and I, it’s our sexuality. Every aspect of it – which reaches into multiple areas of life. For you, it may be different.

What do you think, is kink the same as D/s?

:: MAGIC TIME

Kasai and I have had an interesting journey over the past 8 months. And before I get into too much about where we are at now, and some lessons learned, I feel like sharing some of the amazing discovery’s we have found so far.

The first one, is the Hitachi Wand.

HOLY SHIT BATMAN!!

This thing is incredible! It doesn’t take long for it to work it’s magic. With an full array of attachments, you can continuously experiment with it as well. At around $50, it’s a very inexpensive – with the ROI far outweighing the cost.

You might need an extension cord, and the one other thing I would recommend is a soft cover for it, like this one. The Wand is notorious for getting hot.

It was through the use of the Wand that Kasai squirted for me as well. Whether she was bent over a bar stool, or laying down in bed – any position is a good position for this little toy.

 

 

There’s no doubt – this little Wand is full of magic!

Not every time is magic; and I’ll talk about that later – but when it does happen, it’s like your own firework show.

:: what do you get….

 

 

Computer time hasn’t been too much lately, but I definitely needed to stop by and share something.

The other night, Kasai and I had a powerful moment. It took a few ingredients. I began warming up Kasai pretty early in the day. I instructed her to remove her panties and give them to me after I had already played with you. As we sat outside, she was on the phone with one of her friends, and I teased her pussy again until she was on the edge.

I kept her there until we drifted upstairs, where I used El Diablo (Kasai’s nickname for the magic wand); a bar stool, and a rope. Needed the gag to keep her quiet, because I knew what was coming. Bent over the stool, her hands were tied together, and to the stool. I warmed up her ass with a good round of spankings, and then on to the wand. 

It didn’t take but a couple of minutes, and I hear it – my Kasai is squirting all over the place. It was so beautiful and powerful. I wasn’t ready to do anything else just yet, so I continued making her squirt again and again.